In these times people are dis-couraged to think highly of themselves, leaving a trail of miserable, self-conscious people in its' wake that are so petrified with fear that somebody might think they 'think they are somebody' that they are unable to move forward.
It think it is time to say 'stop it'! It
is okay to say that you are good at something. It
is okay to say that you are pretty. It
is okay to be happy over a great score on a test. There is no need to humble yourself to make others feel better, if the result is that you yourself feel bad.
I don't know why this trend started, but I do not like it one bit. Bragging is one thing - but bragging is exaggerating your own worth - but the fact is that
everyone is good at something. Why not acknowledge what you are good at? Of course, often there are people who are
better,
prettier and got a
better score at that test than you did (or had to work less for the same result you had), but that doesn't mean that
you aren't good!
I didn't have happy days growing up, so for me I was more or less forced to acknowledge my own worth or I'd be damned. So here I am. I have flaws like everyone else, but like everyone else I also have things I'm
good at, I know that I'm
prettier than some, and I know that I've annoyed a lot of people by getting that
test score without working for it.
So what? I'm allowed to appreciate my own worth, and so are you! Don't let
anybody tell you that you can't! And certainly don't let
anybody tell you that you're
not good at the things you appreciate about yourself! If you are pretty, you're sure to have somebody say that you're
not, but that doesn't mean that person is telling the truth!
Through the years I've noticed an ugly thing about humans. Something that I think may just be in human nature I'm afraid; the instinct to make everyone equal or worse than yourself. If a nail sticks out, it's hammered down without mercy. If you are pretty you are sure to have at least one of two things happen to you; people telling you that you shouldn't think you are something, and people avoiding you because they don't want to look bad. Or people swarming around you in hopes it might rub off on them. Such worship is dangerous since it 1) tends to create a distance between the pretty person and her/his 'followers' and 2) when
real life hits the person and it can no longer manipulate others like before, it's bound to hurt.
But the first choice is just as bad. Nobody wants to be alone in life.
So what do we do? Do we lay down and adapt to others, quench our talents and tell ourselves we're not worth more than others? Yes, we do. And that's
WRONG. It pisses me off to no ends when people try to push someone down, and I'm saddened by those who let themselves be pushed.
So for once in your life, sit down and acknowledge
your own worth. Please. I guarantee that you will be a much happier person once you've allowed yourself to
be somebody.
